Few people would defend the Victorian attitude to children, but if you were a parent in those days, at least you know where you stood: children were to be seen and not heard. Freud and company did away with all that and parents have been bewildered ever seen. The child’s happiness is all important, the psychologists say, but what about the parent’s happiness? Parents suffer constantly from fear and guilt while their children gaily romp about pulling the place part. A good old-rearing manual would permit such barbarity. The trouble is you are not allowed even to shout.
Who knows what deep psychological wounds you might inflict? The poor child may never recover from the dreadful traumatic experience. So too is that parents bend over backwards to avoid giving their children, complexes which a hundred years ago hadn’t even heard of. Certainly a child needs love, and a lot of it. But the excessive permissiveness of modern parents is surely doing more harm than good. Psychologists have succeeded in undermining parent’s confidence in their own authority. And it hasn’t taken children long to get wind of the fact.
In addition to the great modern classics on children care, there are countless articles in magazines and newspapers. With so much unsolicited advice flying about, mum and dad just don’t know that to do anymore. In the end, they do nothing at all. So, from early childhood, the kids are in changes and parents lives are regulated according to the needs of their offspring. When the little dears develop into teenagers, they take complete control. Lax authority over the years makes adolescent rebellion against parents the entire move violent. If the young people are going to have a party for instance, parents are asked to leave the house.
Their presence merely spoils the fun. What else can the poor parents do but obey? Children are hardly creatures (far harder than the psychologists would have us believe) and most of them survive the harmful in influence of extreme permissiveness which is the normal condition in the modern household. Bit a great many do not. The spread of juvenile delinquency in our own age is largely due to parental laxity. Mother, believing that little Johnny can look after himself, is not at home when he returns from school, so little Johnny roams the streets.
The diving ‘line between permissiveness and sheer negligence is very fine indeed. The psychologists have much to answer for. They should keep their mouths shut and let parents get on with the job. And if children are knocked about a little bit in the process, it may not really matter too much. At least this will help them to develop vigorous views of their own and give them something positive to react against. Perhaps there’s some truth in the idea that children who’re had a surfeit of happiness in their childhood emerge like stodgy puddings and fail to make a success of life.
All parents love their children. Parental love is sometimes so big that it makes them blind. Parents don’t usually realize that they can hurt their children when they are too permissive for them. Young people, when they get older, they get used to having everything they want. “Easy come, easy go”- they don’t know how much effort it take to earn money or to go to work on regular basis.
Children get spoiled and the often have problems with their personality. They may acquire drug addiction or often they commit crimes. However, if they have rich parents they often get away with these little crimes.
I don’t think my parents spoil me. I help at home a lot. My main responsibility is to learn hard and get good marks at school. I help a lot at home. I usually do shopping. I often clean our house. I have my pocket money, too. However, it isn’t as much as I want. I don’t have everything I wish. In the summer I work in the garden, pick fruit and vegetables. I can also help in redecoration when it is necessary.
In my opinion this is the right way of bringing up children. Kids should know the value of money and they should be responsible for something. They should also know how much trouble it takes to make money for living.
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